Learn About Each Room:
The Kid’s Room
The Kid’s Room is the place for your parenting dilemmas and decisions. It also includes deciding whether or not to have kids and then trying. Got em? Now the focus shifts to trying to be the best parent you can be, or at least not make the same mistakes yours did. The trouble comes when you run out of patience or you wonder what you did wrong when your child is the only one throwing a tantrum at the birthday party.
You love them more than life itself it seems at times, so why do want to scream at them, or point out what you wish they did differently, on a regular basis? You know you’re in the kid’s room when it feels like everything you do is wrong.
Here are a few of the shared stories in the book and you’ll find strategies for working on them there too.
- Whenever my kid misbehaves, I think it reflects badly on me.
- My kids love my babysitter more than they love me.
- I’m the “hurry up” mom. I never slow down and enjoy the moment.
- I wish I could take all of my daughter’s hurt onto me.
- Sometimes I just want to divorce my kids. They drive me nuts.
- I love my kids, but I don’t want more of them. My husband does.
- Good cop, bad cop. We get played off each other by the kids.
- Life would be so much better if I lived somewhere else.
- I feel like my kids are missing out on the kind of childhood I had.
- I always wanted kids but first I need a husband. Or so I thought.
- I worry that one bad grade will lead to a life of failure for my kid.
Now we’d love to hear some of your own ”kid's room” stories. Think of them as seeds (of discontent) that make you want to change something going on in your life. The first step to any meaningful shift is to recognize what is wrong, or what is bringing you down (the seed) and then trying out a new approach or strategy (we call it a key process). You can share in the Key Processes section and let others know how it went. If it was a winner or you “cleaned up” the mess, you will have a takeaway idea (a pearl) and we encourage you to post your pearl for others to see.
Learn About Other Rooms
The Attic, the Office, the Bathroom, the Kid's Room, the Bedroom, the Family Room, the Kitchen, the Living Room, the Basement, the Tenth Room, and the Epilogue all have learning pages. Feel free to catch up and brush off your rooms before you begin the discussion.