Love, Purpose, and Life's Little Imperfections > Boys will be boys, what will men be?
Loss is hard, and dealing with it openly is a healthy reaction. you are talking, you are open and the situation will somehow resolve itself, either with time or a change in status. My only advice here is: focus on the rooms that are going well. Try to close the door on this one for a while and come back later when the mess seems less daunting.
You can of course try to talk to the one who left, moved away (not to decide is to decide; you have to seize opportunities when you can) but remember you can never change someone else, you can only change yourself. Perhaps this is a moment where self reflection and understanding the triggers that led you to act childish are worth revisiting, understanding and then clarifying once and for all. A friend said today, having a clear view is the first step to a path forward. I agree. Put the past in the past. Move on. I hope this helps.
Lucy Danziger
Im in a five year relationship with a man I love very much. We opened up our relationship to another person, actually a wonderful young man. After I acted out like a petulant child one night I managed to screw it all up and I have a tremendous amount of guilt about it. Our friend moved back out of the country and may or may not come back. We are both very sad about the situation but it my acting out was not the only reason for our friend moving away. We both agree that we would like him back in our lives eventually but I am not sure if its the right thing to do? When things are good they are good but when the communication needs to be managed by two people that alone can be daunting adding another person to the mix is a lot. I love my partner very very much and we have a great time together but I can't seem to kick sadness of our friend not being around. I have amazing friends and the advice is all over the place? Im not sure what to do.........??