I hear you. Honestly as editor of SELF I should be able to "get a grip" on the feeling you describe above but some days.... it's just an uphill slog to my happy place. When that happens, and I will admit it's rare, I have to do a mental checklist and ask myself how did I get to this place: am i tired? Yup! Chances are I skimped on sleep, got to bed a full two hours later than intended and am just zonked out. Then the next question: Have I been eating junk? If so it's usually because I am lacking energy and need to sleep and eat healthier foods to supply my body with the right kind of fuel. The list goes one but eventually I can self-correct and find a few blessings and things to be grateful for along the way: healthy body, husband who loves me, kids who are healthy and happy and engaged in their own passions and pursuits (if only it were more school work!)... etc. My advice: take care of yourself (the bathroom) and be good to yourself (your tenth room) and then move to the space that gives you the most pleasure, Close the other doors and focus on the good rooms, even if it's just a tiny little corner ... and then let the happiness spread from there.