The Bedroom > 40, never been married, no kids...what's up with that??
Chicklet01, you are not alone in this senario. I too am 40 never been married nor have children... (sarcastic gasp). In reading between the lines, why do you believe that to be complete in life you must have a mate, someone next to you to complete you? You are complete just as you are. Focus on you for a while. Have you gone on a vacation with your most intimate friends commonly known as "Me, Myself and I?" If you don't love you, nor enjoy your own company, then who else will? Don't settle, just to settle. Judge yourself by yourself and why are you comparing your life to the choices and mistakes that those around you have made. Life is just to short. If you want a date, prepare yourself for the date. Are you working out? Do you do the 5 second flirt (Patti Stanger's advice)? Only you can help you, so get on the battlefield of your life and plan to win!
A fellow 40 year old soldier,
Calirose911
Calirose911
I turned 40 last year and, quite frankly, I've had only a few true boyfriends in my life, and none lasted more than 6 months. I often go years without a date. In fact, the last date I had was 5 years ago! I think I'm fairly attractive, have many close wonderful friends, am happy in my career and have a healthy relationship with my family. For the most part, I'm quite content with my life. But this is one area that I've never been very successful in. As I get older, and most of my friends are married, or divorced with kids, or at the very least, living with a partner, I'm beginning to worry there is something fundamentally wrong with me and that I'll never find a life partner! And most of the men I dated are now married with kids themselves (so I can't blame it on dating men who didn't want to get married...they just didn't want to marry me!) I have always wanted to get married and have children and am scared that this will never happen.....but I surely do not want to become a desperate middle-aged woman, either! (It doesn't help that when people find out I've never been married, nor had children, they react with a shocked, horrified look) Help!