Here is the truth: everyone deserves some time away (hey isn’t that a song?) and you do also. But you have to decide what your body needs during that time. Is it exercise? First take an inventory of your needs, since sometimes you need rest, sleep or just relaxation. Maybe the treadmill is the wrong “break” on days when you’re tired, but only you can decide that, since no one can be in your body or know how tired or worn out you are but you. If you are the kind of person who enjoys exercise and gets rejuvenated by a little sweat and heart-thumping cardio, then go for that run. Or try a fun class, with music, company and other women moving at the same time as you, since it could feel more entertaining and less like drudgery.

If you have run yourself ragged, the right “down” time might involve a manicure or a massage or just 45 minutes reading in a sunny spot. Some people find respite in Starbucks, on their computer, surfing the web, or reading a magazine. Whatever it is that re-charges your batteries, one this is certain: YOU DO DESERVE IT. More than that, you need it. When friends and loved ones require you 24/7 then they are being too demanding. But only if you let them. Remember: “Too much of a good thing is a bad thing,” we say. Meaning you can give too much of yourself and end up depleted. You need to take care of yourself. Since you have to be strong to help others, take care of yourself. Get the rest and exercise you need. Take the time away from the other rooms for yourself, to think and relax and recharge. It’s not selfish, it’s self-preservation. And anyone who loves you will be all for that!